Parenting as an introvert can feel a bit like a torture chamber. Introverts typically re-charge their batteries with quiet, peaceful alone time and can be easily overwhelmed or exhausted by crowded or loud environments (ie any kid-friendly activity!)
As an introvert myself, I was unprepared for the challenges my innate personality would lend to parenting. Being with my babies all day was exhausting. I came home from play-dates wanting to pull my hair out from frustration and overwhelm. I waited - not so patiently - for naptime so that I could be ALONE. And then I realized why... It wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy being with my children, it was that their constant presence literally wore me out.
Even though I’ve realized my limitations and try harder now to put better boundaries in place for myself, I am still learning how to keep up with the energetic (and constantly noisy!) household my kids create each day. But here are a few strategies I’ve learned along the way:
Do you forget to take care of yourself?
I know, it’s hard. I’ve been there. There are so many things going on in your life. So many stressors, right? For many of us, it’s REALLY hard to find the balance - and this is especially true if there is a new baby (or any children!) in the house.
So often we going through the day just trying to survive - juggling multiple plates in the air. Perhaps the deadlines and demanding boss keep you up at night. Or you’re so tired and end up arguing with your partner so much that you can’t concentrate at work. Or you’re exhausted by family drama – your parents, your siblings, your children? Or maybe it’s a bit of everything and you just have NO time for anything else. The plates are all in the air - they’re spinning, you’re spinning - and before you know it everything is crashing to the ground in pieces.
Life can be really amazing, but it can also really wear you down. This is why setting time aside and taking care of you is so important.
Jennifer Howard, CLC, CHBE
As a maternal mental health and pediatric sleep expert, I am passionate about helping tired mamas thrive throughout the many seasons of motherhood. I'm a Nationally Certified Professional Life Coach and Masters Level Therapist specializing in parental mental wellness, marriage/partnership strength and pediatric sleep and soothing.
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